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By : Jack Zavada

Loneliness may be life’s commonest problem, but you can rise above it if you keep these three truths in mind.

1. Loneliness is caused by fear.

We fear being rejected by others. We fear for our physical safety and we also fear investing our precious time. Most of all, we fear entering into a relationship we can’t completely control. But only by conquering these fears can we receive the friendship and love we desire.

The choice is clear. To beat loneliness, we must endure some temporary discomfort by reaching out to others. We must stop waiting and take action.

2. Most people are receptive to friendliness.

Other people are wary, even defensive, especially in big cities, but remember that they’re lonely too. In social settings, it takes courage to start a conversation. Even if you’re rebuffed, don’t give up on reaching out to others.

When people with common interests gather, such as in night classes, lectures, or clubs, the ground is fertile for new relationships. Check the newspaper and local college web sites for interesting events or call your bank about one-day bus excursions. Being with kindred souls is the best way to win over loneliness.

3. Shyness or introversion is a judgment we make about ourselves.

If you think, “I’m too shy to reach out,” or “I could never do that,” then you’re the one placing limitations on yourself. Sitting home waiting for someone to call or expecting others to pull you out of your loneliness just doesn’t work. Has it worked for you up to now?

If you want your life to change, you need to do something different. Have faith in yourself, faith in other people, and faith that you can overcome your loneliness if you’re only willing to keep trying. You can do this.

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Overcoming loneliness takes some effort, but it can be done. Once you understand the true cause and what needs to be done, your choice is clear.

Learn more about overcoming loneliness and shyness on Jack Zavada’s web site, www.inspiration-for-singles.com.

May 2nd, 2008
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By : SKG9

Get Relationship Help in as little as 5 minutes with these 3 secrets!

Many people, including teenagers these days, seem to spend a lot of their time on the internet. Socializing online has become a normal thing to do. Whilst it is great to have all this new technology at your fingertips, sometimes the simple things in life, which often work the best, get overlooked, like the ability to really relate on a person to person level.

Face to face communication is a necessary part of every day life, but how many people actually realize how important these interpersonal skills really are? If developing these skills can make the difference between keeping an important relationship happy and committed, or losing it through ignorance, then these skills do indeed become very valuable.

It is a rather unfortunate trend these days that personal relationships seem to suffer through lack of time spent on them, partners are busy working and it is too easy to neglect these important close liaisons. Relationship help is one of the biggest search terms on the internet today as people are looking to find ways to make their relationships more meaningful and connected.

Relationship help can be as simple as learning a few skills which you can easily apply in day to day situations which will create almost magical results. Even teenagers can benefit from learning some of these skills as they are starting to explore the realms of dating.

Here are some professional secrets that will begin to resurrect any relationship that has been having challenges or will help you to develop a brand new one!

1.  Really listen the next time somebody is talking to you. Give them your full attention and do not get distracted by something else. Other people generally pick up from your body language if you are really interested in what they are saying.

2.  After you have listened to them, wait three seconds before you reply. It may sound a rather strange thing to do, but you will not run the risk of interrupting the other person if they have just paused to take a breath! Additionally, it will give the other person the impression that you have really heard what they are saying and are thinking about it before you respond. You will come across as a caring person who is interested in other people and you, as a result, will become more popular!

Everybody has a favorite subject they like to talk about and it is usually about themselves, so if you are interested in them as well, they will think you are a really nice person!

3.  When you are in conversation with others, ask them questions. Once again it will give the impression that you are really interested in their life.

Many people make the mistake of talking about themselves too much. Of course you are an expert in your own life, but if your goal is to become closer to others, particularly your special intimate relationships, you must reach out and make that other person feel special. So there are three brief secrets for relationship help.

[Article Source : http://www.positivearticles.com]

If you do not know how to communicate effectively you will struggle in many aspects of your life.

The sooner you apply these three secrets, the easier it will become to start to have positive and happy relationships!
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May 1st, 2008
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By : Benjamin Wise

I think we could all agree that the biggest challenge that arises when it comes to chatting someone up that you are interested in is the fear of rejection. The feeling of not being wanted is terrible and we all avoid it like the plague. So if we take out rejection then it would naturally follow that we could talk to a lot more people. So here are a few tips to help with this.

• When approaching somebody ask them an indirect open ended question. Never ask a personal question. Example you are in a bar and you go up to a girl and say “Do you mind if I ask you a question” most girls will say no problem, then say, “Do any good musicians come through here” This way you will find out if she likes music and secondly you may find something in common.

• Body language, once the conversation begins examine body language. Is her posture closed or upright and interested? Does she play with her hair, does she mimic some of your actions. In other words if you lean towards the bar, she leans towards the bar. If she is interested her body language will suggest it, but there area always exceptions to any rule.

• Conversational tone, we have asked her an indirect open ended question. How spirited is her response, is she smiling or engaged in her description. We all know when conversations become stilted, so listen and observe her actions.

• Never overstay your welcome. If you are not getting positive signals, excuse yourself and leave. Remember we are there to make friends and the more friends you make the better your chances of finding the right partner.

• At the outset of your conversation say you have to leave but may be back and if things are going well then you may not have to leave, or you can say I have to go, then ask, “Are you going to be here for a while”, if the answer is yes, then say I will catch up with you in a little bit, then just exit. By the way all of this gages interest without being around someone who does not want you there.

Remember to never get personal, keep it simple and let the chips fall where they may.

April 30th, 2008
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By: Renegade

One of the most common complaints women have about men is that we don’t communicate with them very well.

We don’t share the details and emotions associated with our experiences and tend to have a “just the facts ma’am” approach to communication.

Yet, because of our egos and our desire to win at everything we do, we assume we are good communicators, but this same problem plagues almost all relationships at one point or another.

This dysfunction leads to contempt, malice and eventually the death of the relationship. Seems absurd that all you have to do to prevent it is learn to communicate with your woman.

Here are some tips to get you back on track.

1. Make time to talk with her. Just as you make time to watch tv, to eat, to go out, you need to make the time to sit with her and talk. This is called making an effort and even if you only discuss the very basics — work, friends, what you’re doing on the weekend, it will be noted.

2. Be an active listener. Pay attention to what she says and acknowledge what she says without judgement. This requires patience and concentration, which is again something we guys are not known for. Make the effort to try.

3. Let her know you care. If she had a bad day at work, she needs to know you are on her side. Telling her she should just quit her job if she doesn’t like it is not the answer. Think about how you would feel in a similar situation and even relate a similar experience if you’ve had one. She has to know you care about her.

4. Emoticons and details. When talking with her, put your ego aside and use emotions and details when describing an experience. She will certainly relate to what you say having felt the same thing herself and by offering the seemingly pointless details, she will know you care about her.

As you may already know, learning how to communicate with women is like learning a foreign language. But everything was foreign once. The key to learning anything is to have a passion for the subject and then practise as much as possible — sounds a lot like golf actually.

But just as you can learn more about golf, you can learn more about women. Understanding her better will bring you more of what you want and you would do it for her — as the commercials say — because she’s worth it.

[Article Source: http://www.positivearticles.com]

This article offers 4 great tips to help you communciate better with women.

Renegade is the author of The Naturally Magnetic Male Conditioning System and the recently released ebook, Unlocking the Female Mind. He writes for http://puahelpdesk.com

March 31st, 2008
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By :  Paul Sterling

One of the most common complaints women have about men is that we don’t communicate with them very well.

We don’t share the details and emotions associated with our experiences and tend to have a “just the facts ma’am” approach to communication.

Yet, because of our egos and our desire to win at everything we do, we assume
we are good communicators, but this same problem plagues almost all relationships
at one point or another.

This dysfunction leads to contempt, malice and eventually the death of the
relationship. Seems absurd that all you have to do to prevent it is learn to
communicate with your woman.

Here are some tips to get you back on track.

1. Make time to talk with her. Just as you make time to watch tv, to eat, to go
out, you need to make the time to sit with her and talk. This is called making
an effort and even if you only discuss the very basics — work, friends, what
you’re doing on the weekend, it will be noted.

2. Be an active listener. Pay attention to what she says and acknowledge what
she says without judgement. This requires patience and concentration, which is
again something we guys are not known for. Make the effort to try.

3. Let her know you care. If she had a bad day at work, she needs to know you
are on her side. Telling her she should just quit her job if she doesn’t like
it is not the answer. Think about how you would feel in a similar situation and
even relate a similar experience if you’ve had one. She has to know you care
about her.

4. Emotions and details. When talking with her, put your ego aside and use
emotions and details when describing an experience. She will certainly relate
to what you say having felt the same thing herself and by offering the
seemingly pointless details, she will know you care about her.

As you may already know, learning how to communicate with women is like
learning a foreign language. But everything was foreign once. The key to
learning anything is to have a passion for the subject and then practise as
much as possible — sounds a lot like golf actually.

But just as you can learn more about golf, you can learn more about women.
Understanding her better will bring you more of what you want and you would do
it for her — as the commercials say — because she’s worth it.

[Article
Source: http://www.positivearticles.com]

This article offers 4 great tips to help you communciate
better with women.

Renegade is the author of The Naturally Magnetic Male
Conditioning System and the recently released ebook, Unlocking the Female Mind.
He writes for http://puahelpdesk.com

March 31st, 2008
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By : Peta Fletcher

1. The first sign to look for is a warm or tentative smile.

Not all smiles are created the same though!

3. Body Facing Towards You.

4. Preening.

[Article Source: http://www.positivearticles.com]

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January 30th, 2008
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By : Peter Murphy

Knowing how to communicate is an essential life skill. Take career as a case in point.If you are being interviewed for a job and there is another candidate who is more or less your equal when it comes to skills and knowledge, one of the factors that will surely give you an edge is how you handled yourself during the interview. Sometimes, even if you are not 100% qualified, once the interviewer is satisfied with the way that you answered the questions, you will most likely be accepted for the job.

However, not everyone is blessed with good communication skills. Some people just naturally get their point across more effectively than others. This is the reason why you need to take steps and exert some extra effort in learning how to communicate effectively, so that you would know how to handle yourself in a personal and professional environment. Take a look at the following tips on how to communicate effectively:

1. Do not just hear, learn how to ‘listen’.

Communication is a two-way street. If a person says something to you, you are expected to give a response in kind. It may sound elementary, but often times, people forget how to listen - instead, they just choose to ‘hear’ the message instead of delving deep into what is actually being said. If the meaning of the message is distorted due to a misunderstanding on your part, it will result to miscommunication. The rule of thumb is, listen first to what is being said, then formulate your response from there.

If you merely hear the words being uttered while you are actually thinking about what you are going to say next, then you are not being a participant to an effective two-way communication process. Finally, once you realize that you are actually ‘getting’ what the other person is saying, a corresponding response will automatically come out of your mouth.

2. Be observant while you are being observed in turn.

If, for example, you are in a situation where you need to speak in front of a few friends or before large audience and you find that you are suddenly the center of attention - and people are eagerly awaiting your response - do not panic! Understand that public speaking is one of the most common fears of a lot of people, so you are not alone in this dilemma.

Fear cannot be conquered if you do not ‘force’ yourself to face it, and the sooner you start, the better. Take a deep breath and start looking at the people around you. Are they straining to hear your voice? If they are, increase the volume of your voice a little. Do they appear restless or uninterested? Try varying your pitch, inject humor into what you are saying to get their attention back, or ask questions to get them more involved. You, in turn should learn how to gauge their reaction. With an attentive audience and an observant speaker, the communication between both ends should flow easier.

3. Choose your words carefully to clearly get your message across.

The purpose of communication is simply this: to send a message and make sure that it is clear and understood by the receiver. Whether you are engaged in a one-on-one conversation or if you are speaking before a group of people, you need to choose your words carefully so that your message will be understood. If you find a certain point particularly difficult to describe, use a common scenario by which you can compare the idea that you are trying to impart. If questions arise during the course of the discussion, answer them straightforwardly.

By following these tips on how to communicate effectively, you will certainly overcome any fear of speaking that you might harbor deep inside. Also, your goals - whether it is simply a matter of expressing an opinion, asking someone to do something, or persuading an audience into your line of thinking - they will be realized once you learn how to succinctly get your message across.

[Article Source: http://www.positivearticles.com]

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert.  He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence.  This report reveals the secret strategies all high achievers use to communicate with charm and impact and can be be applied for a limited time at: http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/blog

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January 30th, 2008
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By : Alex Ryan Coulson

Well it’s finally upon us the one night where women can ‘play up’ and doing CRAZY things they normally wouldn’t do.

I can’t stand being alone on New Years Eve and lets face it nobody does.

With all the crazy house parties, special events, and “invitation only” VIP clubs you don’t want to miss out on some great opportunities that are out there.

For all those who have a copy of my DVD Street Dating Revealed will know how easy it is to stop women in the street and get phone numbers, and you would have seen several high quality video approaches for step-by-step instructions for approaching hot women in the street and closing (including getting a kisses).

For the rest of you who don’t yet own a copy of my DVD I’m going to give you a simple 3 Step System for closing hot women that will work specifically for New Years Eve.

Tip #1: Dress up

You will want to stand out as much as possible on this night as there is going to be a lot of guys everywhere.

It’s always better to stand out and be looked over than be overlooked, and you’ll even be surprised if you’re outfit gets women approaching you.

Some good ideas are :

>Fancy Blazers : Velvet

>Badges, Glow n dark, cool slogans

>Cool necklaces, rings and bracelets

>Fake Tattoos

>LED flashing lights (where you can input your very own messages)

>Hats, Cowboy hats, top hats

A friend of mine even paints his face on NYE and this gets a lot of girls approaching him going wild loving it although you don’t have to go to this extreme if you don’t want to.

Tip #2 : Approach!

New Years Eve is one of the most social nights all year round. Don’t underestimate the power of approaching on NYE and you’ll find that at least 95% of women will stop.

Some will find it even TOO EASY to walk up to women and start natural conversations.

Women are expecting to talk to a lot of people on this night and hugging even more.

Tip #3: Hug her!

You can literally walk up to women and say “Happy New Year” and extend your arms and you’ll find that most women will keenly reciprocate.

You have just (very smoothly) initiated touch. The more she gets use to your touch the more she’ll feel comfortable kissing you later.

Don’t wait until countdown to kiss her

If you’ve been talking to a girl for a while and you can sense she’s attracted to you DON’T wait till midnight to move in for a kiss.

Waiting for the countdown is just for wussies.

A technique I use often is I say :

“On a scale of 1-10 how good a kisser would you rate yourself?”

I would be relaxed, with a smile on my face, looking into her eyes and then at her mouth.

She’ll normally answer and I’ll just move in for the kiss (I wouldn’t ask to kiss her by the way) women would rather not be asked to be kissed and would prefer if the man just does it.

Anything can work here though.

If she likes you then practically anything you say will work.

It’s better if it looks like impulsive and “in-the-moment” and you did it because you felt it was right to do it at the time as opposed to thinking or planning it.

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December 31st, 2007
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By : Jeffrey Meier

It’s New Year’s Eve. You want to celebrate it with flair and an abundance of fun. Problem is you are short on cash. What do you do? How can you plan a New Years Even date with little money?

Your first instinct is to stay at home and watch other people having fun in Times Square. You figure you can watch the ball drop and kiss your sweetie at twelve o’clock.

Okay, that is a plan. But it isn’t original and is it really that much fun?

Instead, allow your imagination to run wild. Think. Don’t give up hope.

Try some of these ideas.

* Dress up You got nice clothes. They are all ready hanging in the closet. They won’t cost you any money to wear them. Don’t forget to think warm clothes. Temperatures will be cold in most parts on New Year’s Eve.

* Check the local paper. What is going on at the area clubs and bars? Are there any great deals? Are any local radio stations hosting anything? Remember if you are honest with your date, you can go to these places, dance, have a grand time. Just keep the drinks down to a minimum.

* Looking for a great place to eat? Consider a buffet style dinner. Lots of choices at one price, or better yet, why not host an intimate candlelight dinner for two, before you head out for a night on the town?

* If the weather is nice, why not take a midnight stroll together. Walk hand and hand. Discuss your hopes and dreams for the upcoming year. Walking and talking are both free.

* Many people will leave their Christmas Lights up until New Year’s Day. If you haven’t had the chance to see them in all their glory, here is the perfect chance. Turn on some soft music. Then go and up down the streets. Enjoy the moment and the sights together.

* Host a dinner party. Invite a couple or two. Share the costs, the work and the fun.

* Have a fireplace? Got some wine and some glasses? How about snuggling up close together? Get out a warm blanket. Cuddle close. Drink the wine and share your thoughts. Sure you might be staying at home. But you are making the most of the moment. Plus, you aren’t just sitting back watching others having fun.

* Is there a beach nearby or a top of a building where you can go to look at the stars together? Wrap up in a warm blanket, bring along a thermos of hot chocolate, and toast the New Year as you share some tender moments together.

The idea of most New Years Eve dates is to make the date a romantic and memorable one. Of course, this will also depend on how long the couple in question has been dating and how serious they are.

Romance doesn’t always have to cost a lot of money. Give her a single red rose. Buy a nice bottle of inexpensive wine. Treat her to a thoughtful night on the town or a nice intimate night alone. Just take some thought and some care into planning the night. If you do that, even a New Year’s Even Date on a budget can be a fun filled and romantic one.

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December 31st, 2007
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By : Andyl James

Nowadays, more and more people are using online dating sites to find a partner. If you have been using online dating sites for quite a while, there may come a time whereby you need to start sending out emails to contact the other party. You may have this question, “How should I write my email? In this article, let us go through the various dating email etiquette.

Dating Email Etiquette 1: Protect Your Own Privacy

Before you send out any email, it is very important to know more about the potential dangers of online dating. Therefore, try not to use your regular email address in your first contact with anyone. You may want to create a new account using a pseudonym instead of your real name. It will be best to look for online dating sites that provide in house email services.

Dating Email Etiquette 2: Be Yourself

Don’t try to be someone you are not. Remember, if you are looking for a long term relationship, you will have to meet up one day. Write your email how you will usually talk to someone. Also, do not lie with the intention of impressing the other party. The truth will show itself very soon.

Dating Email Etiquette 3: Praise with Sincerity

All human beings like to be praised, as long as it sincere. Tell your prospect why you decided to contact him/her. What attracted you to him/her?

Dating Email Etiquette 4: Short and Sweet

Don’t write a 10, 000 words essay. Be direct and to the point. Be friendly. Try to keep every paragraph short. For every long paragraph, break it out into two. A long paragraph is not easy to read. With so many spam emails nowadays, you want to make sure that your message is readable so that it will be read.

Dating Email Etiquette 5: Be Responsive

Whenever you send out an email, you expect people to respond fast. Therefore, you should also try to respond to any message as soon as possible. If you do not wish to communicate with a person anymore, it is only polite to tell him/her and explain why.

The above 5 etiquettes are a general guideline and is not a rule of thumb. If you have any better ideas, feel free to implement them.

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December 29th, 2007
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